Facts about Love

Have you really wondered what love is truly about?

Have you ever tried to differentiate between

The different manifestations or profession of Love

"Lust, Infatuations, Obsession and Love"

As understood by mans limited understanding?

Presented below is my thoughts about Love and i would say this

My understanding is limited being human cos

i recognise the fact that we cannot fully grasp the 

mysteries of Love fully on this plane but 

we can be sure to perceive what Love is not.

Therefore, i am open to your view, Scrutiny and Review.

In evaluating what Love is

Let us take a moment and talk about what Love is Not

Lust, Infatuation & Obsession

These three portray the same sense of feeling

but on a different level

Infatuation is a higher level of Lust while

Obsession is the Chief of the pack.

Lets evaluate them one after the other.

Lust is defined as

An emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body

Therefore it starts in the feelings (ur mind) and ends in the Body.

Simply put it is an attraction based solely on

satisfaction of the Body's intense desires (sex)

And when the body is satisfied,

the attraction fades and emptiness is felt inside.

The funny thing is the body might take years to get satisfied.

Infatuation is defined as

(a) A state of being carried away by unreasoned passion or "love"

(b) The headlong libidinal attraction

Infatuation unlike Lust is a product of subconscious thought

A situation in which your mind become overwhelmed

With thoughts of someone such that

All you desire is being with them no matter what

And can never bear the thought of him being with someone else

Infatuation is usually characterized by unnatural suspicion and jealousy

I once met a Lady who claims she loves the spouse so much

That she gets jealous even when he plays and hugs his sister

That for me is a clear indication of infatuation.

When you say when i met him for the first time

He swept me off my feet and i have not recovered ever since

Check it may be Infatuation, and if it is purely a sex-based relationship It is lust

Funny enough both Lust and Infatuation are feelings based on sex

The difference is this

In Lust you do not care if he is married or has other affairs

All you want is a share of the "national cake" while

In Infatuation despite the fact you know the emotions isnt deep

You want the whole package to yourself and become 

miserable when he is not around

On to the next one

Obsession is defined as

(a) A Persistent Preoccupation with an unreasonable idea or feeling

(b) Domination of one's thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image or feeling

Obsession is a higher Level of infatuation in that

It includes the element of persistence and Domination

Where infatuations come and go

Obsession becomes permanent

While Infatuation is subconscious, 

Obsession is a conscious torment of oneself with

Unreasonable ideas or feeling about one's spouse

At this point he must be around even at the expense of

His personal plans, project and principles

Even if these are meant to benefit you both.

Excessive nagging inevitable

Greed, selfishness becomes your daily companion

No matter what he does or how much time he spends with you

You want more and when he isn't with you

There is this overwhelming feeling of insecurity and need

Leading to unreasonable feeling and idea

that he perceives someone or something

More important than you

Have you heard of cases where a spouse tells her guy

to skip work and be with her just to prove to her 

that he really loves her?

In obsession the greed is so much that you

cannot bear the burden of loosing him/her

Life becomes meaningless when they are gone

And throwing your own life away becomes reasonable

 

While in Obsession you can go to the extent of maiming,

killing the Ex or the object of your separation

In Infatuation you lead a self-destructive lifestyle

when separation comes.

Also in Obsession you tend to dominate and try to Possess

 the spouse and when you feel you are loosing your grip

violence is inevitable

you would rather maim and disfigure her 

than loose her to someone else

...........To be Continued ......

Take a moment Reflect on the above point and

Try to evaluate the various aspects of your relationship in this light

That is if you agree with the points enumerated above

Keep a date tomorrow while we look at 

what Love is and its key indicators.

LIFE IS ALL ABOUT LOVE..........