Always use your head

It is written that in the end times....

"Knowledge will increase (Dan 12:4)"

But it seems to me that as knowledge increases

Understanding is diminished and ignorance dominate

Friends, pardon me if this post offends you

But I don’t understand Why someone 

will decide to handover the steering of his life

to another human in the name of "my Man of God"

I believe we are human because we have the capacity

To reason, scrutinize and make logical inference

Without this ability, we are animals or at most "Zombies"

I cannot comprehend how a human being

With the ability to relate, evaluate and criticize

decides to Judge another based on hearsay?

Why any sane person will divorce his wife of over 10years

Based on another person’s prophesy that 

she is a witch and is hindering his progress

Without analyzing such prophesy logically

This guy got married in a one room apartment

Now lives in 3bedroom flat

He married her on his "Legmousine"

Now he drives a comfortable car

could hardly pay his bills when she was married,

Today their 3 kids attend good schools.

My question is this "At what point did she become a witch?"

Which of these advancements seem to be a hindrance to his progress?

I read a story of how a "supposed man of God" raped an adolescent

Who was sent to his house for a private deliverance session

It got me wondering how empty-headed a parent will be

To send his adolescent daughter to the house of an unmarried pastor

In the pretext of "private deliverance session" without asking himself

What kind of deliverance is done privately?

As if that wasn’t enough,

Another pastor delivers young ladies

from the spirit of rejection by sucking their breasts

What aspect of this act is biblical?

Honestly, We really need to start engaging our brains.

Friends

Gods words admonishes us to

"Believe not every spirit but try every spirit (I John 4:1)"

Evaluate every prophesy, God cannot contradict himself

Know this

God is not speaking through your pastor every time he opens his mouth

Even the great apostle Paul after making a remark

in Romans 3:5 noted "….I speak as a man"

We need to apply logical reasoning to these issues

and stop living our lives based on the dictates of another human being.

That is the only way we can protect ourselves and loved ones from

These wolves in sheep clothing who call themselves "Men of God",

God speaks in so many ways. He can even send someone to you

But, try every spirit. That’s all I am saying

At 28 your pastor told you that the guy proposing marriage is not your husband.

Now you are 38 none of the men you brought in the past

was certified as your husband by your pastor

I advise you seek a second or 3rd opinion next time someone proposes

You will be shocked that their opinions will vary

Ask yourself this question

If your pastor has the statistical data of your God-ordained spouse

Why not cut the crap, give you the data and allow you

Embark on your version of "The Ultimate Search"

or in the alternative he can use the details to conjure him into your life.

If your pastor consistently told you "that guy isn't your hubby"

“this guy is not your hubby” and you have watched the same guy(s)

Get married to another and maintain a happy home(s) over the years

I believe its hightime your pastor told you the truth

Or if he is single, ask him out!

Who knows he might be discouraging you from relationships

 cos he has got feelings for you.

I have no sympathy for Men waiting on God

to throw down their wife from heaven

The day you decide to start FINDING, your problems will cease cos

It is written that "He who FINDS a wife….. (Proverbs 18:22)"

not he who prays for one

Or he whose pastor recommends a wife to

(This is not intended to disprove recommendations though)

Know this every union whether recommended by a Pope,

Pastor, Bishop, Imam or Babalawo

Will go through its "LEARNING PHASE"

this is the point where you face the reality of your spouse's personality

I tell you, in God's name this isn't so palatable

and has the capacity to break any home

If both of you do not have deep rooted affection,

a clear understanding of what you are into and

a strong determination to make your union successful.

There is nothing like "A Perfect Spouse"

If you want to get married to one

Better take an oath of celibacy

In conclusion

Christ admonishes us to "search the scriptures for in them

you think you have eternal Life" (John 5:39)

Not in the words of your pastor or spiritual leader

That is not to say you should undermine the anointed.

Have respect for the anointing but criticize all Spirits.

God's word is the only authority to a righteous living not your pastors

Most of all

You have got a brain

Use it at all times and

 Friends inspite of what any "man of God" tells you

.......    Always use your head

Staying Secure on Social Media

Social Media like many communication tools have its merits and demerits

Depending on usage and having a clear understanding of steps you can take to

protect yourself, identity, information and even loved ones.

Social Media was designed as a means to increase network and

make communication easy and effective

But certain fraudulent and criminally minded elements

have decided to use it as a means to broaden their reach and prey on vulnerable users.

This post is meant to enlighten and focus our minds on various attitude which increase your vulnerability while using Social Media with a view to educate and help us secure ourselves better.

Many people have been scammed based on information shared on their page

before they understand that they are communicating with an unknown figure,

the deed is done and regret becomes the next point of call.

Most times they wouldn’t even remember where and when

they divulged an information which they believe was personal.

e.g An impostor called my colleague posing as his brother abroad

and requested for some funds before the guy would realize he was an impostor

he had parted with a huge sum of money.

He returned and was lamenting that this must be from someone well known to him

 as there are information that the impostor was privy to which was within the family

I promised to investigate and advise him and identified the following

a.            He has a full list of his family members on his Facebook profile

b.            His Facebook profile information was open for view to the "Public"

c.             His Family members are so active on Facebook.

There is no limit to what they share from family vacation pix,

to family Re-union, to get-together plans. In fact all you need to get to know what is happening               in his clan is to follow him and like their family page

d.            His personal information (address, Schools attended and year of graduation, etc)

was clearly stated. Same for most of his family members in his circle.

I pointed out these vulnerabilities and further explained that

it is so easy for anyone to get information they think is personal by just following his page.

I have highlighted certain tips on how to increase your security on Social Media

 and to an extent Keep you safe from Phishing attacks

1.            Be very selective of your circle of friends. Criticize friends request properly before accepting.

Every Tom, Dick and Harry shouldn’t be your friend.

2.            Be mindful of what you share

Imagine someone who have a robber on his circle of friends

sharing the post "so blessed" with image of wads of cash and clean rides.

If his address is stated in his profile, it is a clear invitation to get robbed.

Or one who have a secret stalker checking in on every location she visits.

That is tantamount to putting a tracker on yourself.

3.            Be careful of which built-in apps you use. Check-in Maps and Location tags,

to me, is a vulnerability except you have made your page views to be "Private".

4.            Never click shared links (Be it Video, Audio or Software) of unknown origin

This is usually the way many download Keylogger to their system.

Keylogger, simply put, is a software that identify any information typed on your keyboard  including website address, username and password and sends to the originating hackers system

for use anytime they deem fit.

5.            Activate Built-in security and Privacy Features

Certain security and privacy features are built into Social Media Platforms e.g.

- Audience: This can be used to set who sees what you share

- Sign-in Verification Code: This sends a random code to your registered phone number

anytime an attempt is made to sign into your account. Without this code,

log-in cannot be successful.

- Privacy Settings: This can be used to set who sees pictures or posts

 you are tagged in (friends only, friend  of friends etc), whose tags can appear on your wall

and who can view what information shared on your profile.

6.            Be Vigilant

For no reason should you be compelled to do the following

- Share your username and password with anyone or on any form, online or offline,

your password is your private identity. It is not for public consumption.

- Share your log-in code or security feature activated on your page.

7.            Always trust your instincts

If you feel uneasy about divulging any information, please do not do it!

Stay Safe Friends….

Never Give UP

Life's difficulties, though unwanted, is a major part of living

To live and not expect challenging situations is not to live at all.

Everyone, born of a woman, faces challenges

Your disposition during trying times will establish  you as a winner or a looser

Believe me,

No matter how tough and unbearable you think your situation is

Someone is going through something worse

Life itself is a challenge and each stage poses its own unique trials and travails

To give up at a stage is to limit ones personal development

Imagine a toddler giving up on standing cos he fell on the first trial

How would he learn to walk and run?

If you think your life is a mess cos you don’t have a car

Consider those who have got no legs

If your job is unbearable, consider those who have got no job

If you are devastated your spouse cheated

consider those whose spouse abandoned for another

If you are bitter your hubby keep late nights

consider those whose hubby haven't returned in over 5yrs

If you are distraught cos you don’t have a son consider those who have none

Troubled you aint married yet,

consider those who seek escape from abusive union

I decided long ago to focus on

the positive side of life no matter what because

We cannot fully understand Life's occurrence

no matter how long we analyzing them.

In fact, the more you analyze, the more depressed you will get.

Next time you are faced with a challenging situation know this

- Someone is having it worse

- You will not always find an explanation for unfavorable situation

- No matter what you do "Life must go on" even if you commit suicide

- Beating yourself up for mistakes made will never help. Learn from them and move on

- You will never have control over all of life's event

- A positive disposition will always open your eyes to solutions and lessen your burden

- It is temporal

No matter what you are going through

believe Gods word which declares that "All things work together for good"

even if we most times do not understand "HOW"

And no matter what comes your way  

Never Give Up!