Why we choose to live in the shadow of lies
Gets so creepy that the heart gets overwhelmed
We get so engrossed in lies so much that the truth seems farfetched
Yet we hope for the best while we get entangled and
remain in wrong-doing Finally we blame everyone
but ourselves when the inevitable, due to our actions, happen.
I will get to guys in the part2 of this write up but for now
Ladies listen
Guys are sick and tired of you forming a general perspective of us
From information you gathered by either listening to peers
Who would only give you information that justifies them
While glorifying their shortcomings or
From peeping at us through the keyhole of your mindset
Instead of opening the doors of your heart and
walk into our world
Yes I know you have been told from age eight that Guys are wicked, lousy,
insincere and stupid
Though some of those facts have been verified over time
But think about this in all sincerity. Who isn’t?
We are only human and can never be perfect in this flesh
I am also aware that some guys wear their own foolishness like a crown
I am not trying to justify them
But please Ladies
Get a hold of this truth and let it register in your mind.
You cannot be bigger than your thoughts
Cannot see beyond your vision and dreams
Your life will continually tow the path you chart and
Except by divine intervention
You cannot walk a wrong path continuously
and arrive at the right destination
If you are single and feel your time is ticking or
time is now of the utmost importance
Take a time out and evaluate your mindset, your perception your belief
I learnt something from every relationship I lost
And that is If you can sit down after a failed relationship and
Evaluate why the relationship failed, don’t just do this yourself
Talk to those who are more experienced than you are
Being careful to present the fact as it is,
not being economical with the truth
You will discover what you did wrong
Only then will you be able to make amends and move on
Understand this If different guys you dated
complained about a particular trend in your behavior
Which they perceived as appalling,
Then it is high time you decide to make amends and tell yourself
that the problem was not from the guys
Think about this
We always hear “he left me cos he wasn’t ready for commitment”
“Guys are always afraid to commit and settle down”
Still thousands of Ladies say “I Do” every Saturday
Question: Are they getting married to Ladies, like themselves? Hell No!
That guy you think is not ready to settle down is now happily married
Yet you will give the excuse that he got snatched away
Please instead of whining ask yourself what the other lady has
That you lack and strive to acquire it cos funny as it seems
the other lady might not even be half as pretty as you are
So what is the problem?
I will try my best to highlight some views from a guy’s perspective
Please dear ones
Understand that there are certain peculiarities in every guy
No two guys reason alike, behave alike or want same things
So what you think appeals to one, might be disgusting to the other
That said let’s get down to business
Most guys would date anybody from a club freak,
no home staying and always flexing babe
I even know guys who dates Prostitutes
But when it comes to settling down, it’s a different ball game
Then he is thinking of someone he can DEPEND on
Yea I know some of you are shocked,
An egoistic African man DEPENDENT? Yes I said so
As shocked as you may feel, I tell you IT IS THE TRUTH
Find out from ladies who are married and
Are enjoying a blissful home they will tell you
that their hubby is a big Baby
A big sis once told me that when
she looks at the way her hubby Commands respect and
admiration from people outside
She can only smile cos they will never know that
Few hours before, he was in tears and related his fears to her
In her own words she said
“They would never know how many liters of his tears my shoulders bore
Nor the number of nights I had to cuddle him.
Seems we have forgotten the saying that
“Behind every successful man, there is a woman”
I would love to rephrase that
“Behind every successful man, there is a virtuous woman”
Men are created to be dependent
but they can only depend on you If you earn their trust
Most guys you see as composed, organized and in sync with themselves
Are disorganized, disoriented and confused 85% of the time
It takes a Lady with a good head to put him in check It’s amazing to note that
Most men who keep late nights and Chill at bars and food spots go there
sometimes cos they feel at home with
The woman who owns the bar, her sales girl or her daughter and
you will be amazed to hear the kinda things he discusses with them.
That is not to say that we enjoy being pushed around or
A woman who is bossy
Simply put.
We want someone to fill our mother’s role without issuing commands
See no matter how much a man loves grooving and flexing
He does not want to marry an always grooving, club freak. Why?
One, no matter how much you think we trust you
We always worry about you getting carried away
In the heat of the moment and moving with the flow
Secondly, it is not economically wise
Ladies the phrase “I Love you just the way you are” is a Blatant lie.
Never fall for it If it is true why does
he buy you hair extensions, wigs,
jewelries and encourage you to look good?
It is only a guy who really cares about you
And thinks you have a place in his future
Who would look beyond your looks
Push you to defining your dreams and
assist you to actualize them
Except when the guy is decades older than you and
Feels that you leaving the house is a vulnerability
Therefore if your spouse complains about something,
anything which would be of benefit and advance you,
adjust now before you lose him
Cos no matter how much he loves you
Once his complains turns to nagging and u seem not to care
His love would die and he would see no reason to stay.
Understand this
Every guy wants to feel proud, just like ladies,
introducing his spouse to peeps
Not just as a pretty face but also as a resourceful person
I understand that everybody cannot be a graduate but
Education does not only end in school and
Classrooms are not only present in the university
If you can’t become a university graduate,
Learn a trade, make yourself resourceful
Then and only then will you stop looking for
the next guy to pay your bills
There are so many non-graduates who are millionaires
Stop sitting on your ass and GO GET A LIFE!
Ladies I get cynical when I hear you guys say
“I don’t want to marry a guy who is attached to his family”
One Lady said to me “she would prefer to marry an orphan”
You guys forget that if a guy is detached from his present family
(His Father, Mother and siblings)
He would also be detached from his future family
(You, his wife and his children)
Ladies please get your priorities right!
Even if your hubby is so attached to his mother or
Your mother-in-law is troublesome
Ask yourself this question: how many more years does she have to live?
Will you throw away your joy and
Life over someone who is already wrapping up theirs?
If all you do while dating a guy is discover ways for him to spend
Then you have just labeled yourself “unmarriageable”
Make no mistake about it
every guy dreads going Bankrupt than going to hell
If you portray an unhomely,
Disorganized and confused disposition
It is a huge turn-off for the guy
cos he begins to see you like himself, A man!
He might act like he doesn’t care at first but
Mark my words. Soon he will be bothered
If you doubt me
Ask married friends to make a list of things
Their hubby Dint care about while they were courting
Which causes a rift now that they are married
You will be amazed
It is true that “he who finds a wife, finds a good thing” but
Virtue is all about disposition, composure and poise
Anything short of these is mediocrity
If you want your life to take a different tow, think differently
Act differently, Love differently and live
Believe me If it is too good to be true, then it is not true
Real relationships can never be perfect, perfect relationships aint Real
Always read between the lines choose reality over illusions
That is the only way you will discover
The Secret Truths and Open Lies.
Gets so creepy that the heart gets overwhelmed
We get so engrossed in lies so much that the truth seems farfetched
Yet we hope for the best while we get entangled and
remain in wrong-doing Finally we blame everyone
but ourselves when the inevitable, due to our actions, happen.
I will get to guys in the part2 of this write up but for now
Ladies listen
Guys are sick and tired of you forming a general perspective of us
From information you gathered by either listening to peers
Who would only give you information that justifies them
While glorifying their shortcomings or
From peeping at us through the keyhole of your mindset
Instead of opening the doors of your heart and
walk into our world
Yes I know you have been told from age eight that Guys are wicked, lousy,
insincere and stupid
Though some of those facts have been verified over time
But think about this in all sincerity. Who isn’t?
We are only human and can never be perfect in this flesh
I am also aware that some guys wear their own foolishness like a crown
I am not trying to justify them
But please Ladies
Get a hold of this truth and let it register in your mind.
You cannot be bigger than your thoughts
Cannot see beyond your vision and dreams
Your life will continually tow the path you chart and
Except by divine intervention
You cannot walk a wrong path continuously
and arrive at the right destination
If you are single and feel your time is ticking or
time is now of the utmost importance
Take a time out and evaluate your mindset, your perception your belief
I learnt something from every relationship I lost
And that is If you can sit down after a failed relationship and
Evaluate why the relationship failed, don’t just do this yourself
Talk to those who are more experienced than you are
Being careful to present the fact as it is,
not being economical with the truth
You will discover what you did wrong
Only then will you be able to make amends and move on
Understand this If different guys you dated
complained about a particular trend in your behavior
Which they perceived as appalling,
Then it is high time you decide to make amends and tell yourself
that the problem was not from the guys
Think about this
We always hear “he left me cos he wasn’t ready for commitment”
“Guys are always afraid to commit and settle down”
Still thousands of Ladies say “I Do” every Saturday
Question: Are they getting married to Ladies, like themselves? Hell No!
That guy you think is not ready to settle down is now happily married
Yet you will give the excuse that he got snatched away
Please instead of whining ask yourself what the other lady has
That you lack and strive to acquire it cos funny as it seems
the other lady might not even be half as pretty as you are
So what is the problem?
I will try my best to highlight some views from a guy’s perspective
Please dear ones
Understand that there are certain peculiarities in every guy
No two guys reason alike, behave alike or want same things
So what you think appeals to one, might be disgusting to the other
That said let’s get down to business
Most guys would date anybody from a club freak,
no home staying and always flexing babe
I even know guys who dates Prostitutes
But when it comes to settling down, it’s a different ball game
Then he is thinking of someone he can DEPEND on
Yea I know some of you are shocked,
An egoistic African man DEPENDENT? Yes I said so
As shocked as you may feel, I tell you IT IS THE TRUTH
Find out from ladies who are married and
Are enjoying a blissful home they will tell you
that their hubby is a big Baby
A big sis once told me that when
she looks at the way her hubby Commands respect and
admiration from people outside
She can only smile cos they will never know that
Few hours before, he was in tears and related his fears to her
In her own words she said
“They would never know how many liters of his tears my shoulders bore
Nor the number of nights I had to cuddle him.
Seems we have forgotten the saying that
“Behind every successful man, there is a woman”
I would love to rephrase that
“Behind every successful man, there is a virtuous woman”
Men are created to be dependent
but they can only depend on you If you earn their trust
Most guys you see as composed, organized and in sync with themselves
Are disorganized, disoriented and confused 85% of the time
It takes a Lady with a good head to put him in check It’s amazing to note that
Most men who keep late nights and Chill at bars and food spots go there
sometimes cos they feel at home with
The woman who owns the bar, her sales girl or her daughter and
you will be amazed to hear the kinda things he discusses with them.
That is not to say that we enjoy being pushed around or
A woman who is bossy
Simply put.
We want someone to fill our mother’s role without issuing commands
See no matter how much a man loves grooving and flexing
He does not want to marry an always grooving, club freak. Why?
One, no matter how much you think we trust you
We always worry about you getting carried away
In the heat of the moment and moving with the flow
Secondly, it is not economically wise
Ladies the phrase “I Love you just the way you are” is a Blatant lie.
Never fall for it If it is true why does
he buy you hair extensions, wigs,
jewelries and encourage you to look good?
It is only a guy who really cares about you
And thinks you have a place in his future
Who would look beyond your looks
Push you to defining your dreams and
assist you to actualize them
Except when the guy is decades older than you and
Feels that you leaving the house is a vulnerability
Therefore if your spouse complains about something,
anything which would be of benefit and advance you,
adjust now before you lose him
Cos no matter how much he loves you
Once his complains turns to nagging and u seem not to care
His love would die and he would see no reason to stay.
Understand this
Every guy wants to feel proud, just like ladies,
introducing his spouse to peeps
Not just as a pretty face but also as a resourceful person
I understand that everybody cannot be a graduate but
Education does not only end in school and
Classrooms are not only present in the university
If you can’t become a university graduate,
Learn a trade, make yourself resourceful
Then and only then will you stop looking for
the next guy to pay your bills
There are so many non-graduates who are millionaires
Stop sitting on your ass and GO GET A LIFE!
Ladies I get cynical when I hear you guys say
“I don’t want to marry a guy who is attached to his family”
One Lady said to me “she would prefer to marry an orphan”
You guys forget that if a guy is detached from his present family
(His Father, Mother and siblings)
He would also be detached from his future family
(You, his wife and his children)
Ladies please get your priorities right!
Even if your hubby is so attached to his mother or
Your mother-in-law is troublesome
Ask yourself this question: how many more years does she have to live?
Will you throw away your joy and
Life over someone who is already wrapping up theirs?
If all you do while dating a guy is discover ways for him to spend
Then you have just labeled yourself “unmarriageable”
Make no mistake about it
every guy dreads going Bankrupt than going to hell
If you portray an unhomely,
Disorganized and confused disposition
It is a huge turn-off for the guy
cos he begins to see you like himself, A man!
He might act like he doesn’t care at first but
Mark my words. Soon he will be bothered
If you doubt me
Ask married friends to make a list of things
Their hubby Dint care about while they were courting
Which causes a rift now that they are married
You will be amazed
It is true that “he who finds a wife, finds a good thing” but
Virtue is all about disposition, composure and poise
Anything short of these is mediocrity
If you want your life to take a different tow, think differently
Act differently, Love differently and live
Believe me If it is too good to be true, then it is not true
Real relationships can never be perfect, perfect relationships aint Real
Always read between the lines choose reality over illusions
That is the only way you will discover
The Secret Truths and Open Lies.
