Facts about Love Pt2

Continued from FACTS about Love

Love is defined as

(a) Affection based on admiration, benevolence or a common interest.

(b) Warm attachment, enthusiasm or devotion

(c) Unselfish, loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.

In view of the above definitions

I believe Love is the center of our being as human

It is that character that proves our link with the divine cos

You cannot fully understand a concept without knowing its source

God Loves and God is Love

Love is a defense not a vulnerability

It is a product of wholehearted trust

Which is a function of vivid knowledge and undaunted understanding

Love is neither accidental nor subconscious

It is higher than attraction, bigger than emotions

and more enduring than feelings

It involves a conscious decision

Therefore Love at first sight is just an exaggerated attraction

based on physique, voice tone and or flair

Which if well evaluated might be Lust leading to infatuation and Obsession

Though I believe that you can be attracted to someone and

After you find a common ground, interest, belief or understanding,

Love develops between you.

Take a time out and think about these few thoughts

If you feel insecure in the arms of the one you claim to love

You are indifferent and insincere

If you feel like hurting him when he hurts you

You are Obsessed

If you feel miserable when he is not around

You are infatuated

If you do not readily forgive and accommodate his faults

It is not Love

If you do not have respect for each others beliefs and principle

It cannot be love

If your relationship/communication is sex-based

No matter how many years you have been together, IT IS LUST

If he broke up with you over sex forget it he is just lusting after you

If what you guys share does not enhance your lives,

dreams and aspiration, RUN for your Life!

If you readily hurt him/her, lay your hands on her

or destroy his property in order to hurt him

Anytime you are provoked and cry begging when calm

You are Obsessed.

If he cannot bear the thought of you being around other guys

Such that he stops you from working

despite your skills and qualification

HE IS OBSESSED!

If the only time he remembers to call you to come over

Is when he needs your body. You are his sex toy

If all you do whenever you meet is have sex

You guys are in Lust!

If he has never pushed you to advance your life

or make you take definite steps towards personal advancement

Then you guys are just marking time.

If the only time she tells you a wholehearted "I LOVE U"

is when she receives an unexpected gift you be MAGA!

If he has never supported you financially

nor given you any gift, ever. think twice!

If the thought of the one you claim to love

Does not bring warmth to your soul

Wake up to reality you are not in Love

If you do not feel whole and at home 

in the arms of the one you say you love

Something else is keeping you

If you are comfortable when 

you are not communicating with him

Babe you do not love him.

Love never keeps secrets for long

If your relationship is based on your location

Such that you feel different bout him

when he is not in same area with you

It's a sure indication of what love is not cos

Distance should increase need

thus escalating communication and affection

just like Scarcity increases the value of a product.

Now take this test

What will your relationship with your spouse be like if you

(a) Give him an excuse to avoid sex the next time you meet?

(b) Tell him you need to travel to another town for an obligation

(c) Need time to focus on planning and executing a project

(d) Have decided that you won't indulge in sex till married

(e) You decide that the funds she gets from you 

as his Boyfriend will cease for a while cos of financial commitments

If the tone of the relationship changes or he/she starts dragging,

It is never Love!

Being married to someone is never an indication

That you Love them

Else the rate of divorce in Naija would be minimal

Some people even tend to find their true love after marriage

Though Lust, Infatuation and Obsession

sometimes portray same characteristics as Love

Fake products are more flashy than original

A sure differentiating factor between what's real and not is time

Love will encourage you to do what is right

Love is considerate, unselfish and reasonable

Therefore sleeping with another woman's husband

And causing her to cry and keep awake late night

Waiting for the husband's return is wickedness

A man sleeping with a young lady he has no plan to marry

Despite the fact he has his own family is deception

Believe whatever you may

I know this for sure

If it was Love, It will always be Love cos

Love Never Fails!!!!

..... Seek Love, Give Love..... Happy St. Valentine's Day

Facts about Love

Have you really wondered what love is truly about?

Have you ever tried to differentiate between

The different manifestations or profession of Love

"Lust, Infatuations, Obsession and Love"

As understood by mans limited understanding?

Presented below is my thoughts about Love and i would say this

My understanding is limited being human cos

i recognise the fact that we cannot fully grasp the 

mysteries of Love fully on this plane but 

we can be sure to perceive what Love is not.

Therefore, i am open to your view, Scrutiny and Review.

In evaluating what Love is

Let us take a moment and talk about what Love is Not

Lust, Infatuation & Obsession

These three portray the same sense of feeling

but on a different level

Infatuation is a higher level of Lust while

Obsession is the Chief of the pack.

Lets evaluate them one after the other.

Lust is defined as

An emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body

Therefore it starts in the feelings (ur mind) and ends in the Body.

Simply put it is an attraction based solely on

satisfaction of the Body's intense desires (sex)

And when the body is satisfied,

the attraction fades and emptiness is felt inside.

The funny thing is the body might take years to get satisfied.

Infatuation is defined as

(a) A state of being carried away by unreasoned passion or "love"

(b) The headlong libidinal attraction

Infatuation unlike Lust is a product of subconscious thought

A situation in which your mind become overwhelmed

With thoughts of someone such that

All you desire is being with them no matter what

And can never bear the thought of him being with someone else

Infatuation is usually characterized by unnatural suspicion and jealousy

I once met a Lady who claims she loves the spouse so much

That she gets jealous even when he plays and hugs his sister

That for me is a clear indication of infatuation.

When you say when i met him for the first time

He swept me off my feet and i have not recovered ever since

Check it may be Infatuation, and if it is purely a sex-based relationship It is lust

Funny enough both Lust and Infatuation are feelings based on sex

The difference is this

In Lust you do not care if he is married or has other affairs

All you want is a share of the "national cake" while

In Infatuation despite the fact you know the emotions isnt deep

You want the whole package to yourself and become 

miserable when he is not around

On to the next one

Obsession is defined as

(a) A Persistent Preoccupation with an unreasonable idea or feeling

(b) Domination of one's thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image or feeling

Obsession is a higher Level of infatuation in that

It includes the element of persistence and Domination

Where infatuations come and go

Obsession becomes permanent

While Infatuation is subconscious, 

Obsession is a conscious torment of oneself with

Unreasonable ideas or feeling about one's spouse

At this point he must be around even at the expense of

His personal plans, project and principles

Even if these are meant to benefit you both.

Excessive nagging inevitable

Greed, selfishness becomes your daily companion

No matter what he does or how much time he spends with you

You want more and when he isn't with you

There is this overwhelming feeling of insecurity and need

Leading to unreasonable feeling and idea

that he perceives someone or something

More important than you

Have you heard of cases where a spouse tells her guy

to skip work and be with her just to prove to her 

that he really loves her?

In obsession the greed is so much that you

cannot bear the burden of loosing him/her

Life becomes meaningless when they are gone

And throwing your own life away becomes reasonable

 

While in Obsession you can go to the extent of maiming,

killing the Ex or the object of your separation

In Infatuation you lead a self-destructive lifestyle

when separation comes.

Also in Obsession you tend to dominate and try to Possess

 the spouse and when you feel you are loosing your grip

violence is inevitable

you would rather maim and disfigure her 

than loose her to someone else

...........To be Continued ......

Take a moment Reflect on the above point and

Try to evaluate the various aspects of your relationship in this light

That is if you agree with the points enumerated above

Keep a date tomorrow while we look at 

what Love is and its key indicators.

LIFE IS ALL ABOUT LOVE..........

Love Notes 2

If i ever awake and discover

That we no more talk, share and feel each other

If i can no more see the radiance of your smile,

The confidence of your looks,

Hear the melodies of your voice,

Feel the softness of your touch

The rhythm of your heartbeat

Straightness of your thoughts

Your skin on mine or

Taste the sweetness of your kiss

If suddenly i discover

You have been so untrue, insincere and

Get to realize that  i have been played all this while

If i get to hear ridiculous stories bout your past

Which though true u decided to hide from me

If i stumble on facts portraying your inconsistency

And i

Being a fool believing in you

Even if you tell me that it is over and

We pretend as if we never met

If you suddenly become a stranger and

I seem to erase you from my memory

What more can i say

If, if and If everything we savor come crashing

I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU ..... even if it hurts


........... Keep a date tomorrow as we explore Facts of Love i

Love Notes

Intro:
Going through my diary (from way back)
i stumbled on some of my notes to the one i loved
(and still love, tho we can't be together)
it felt so good reading them and i felt i should share
some of those notes with y'all
in this Season of Love
In the following days i will share notes, poems and Letters
and on 12th give my definition of Love
Let me take you through
My Odyssey of Love
Val is in the Air

.........................................

I have always asked myself

Why i decided to keep mute

Bout the irritating things you said or did

It's not that i have not tried to tell you

But most times

I just look at you and smile

Partly because i know that

I can only be sure of my heart and what i feel

Never can tell what's going through yours and

Partly cos

There are things about me that you can't understand

Even if i tell you

I was never afraid to say what i want to say

When i want to say it and however i wish

It has become almost become an impulse

But with you

I had to relax and find a suitable way

To tell you these things because

Much as i would not want to be misunderstood

I would not forgive myself if 

By expressing myself i hurt you

No matter what happens

I would rather bear the burden of my pains

Than see you hurt just to let it out

Though,

I expressed my thoughts

Concern, care and dissatisfaction

It's all because i really care

I might not want you as a Lover

(can't be so certain)

But i am sure that

I NEED YOU not as JUST FRIENDS

But as

A TRUE, TRUSTED & SINCERE ONE!

                                               

                                ........ All About Dums

Storms from a quiet heart!

Advice: How to leave Spinsterhood..

Saw this and Agree with it entirely.... Kindly Read...

1. Guys love to marry an Independent and Matured lady… So instead of sitting there and waiting to be bluffed by a guy, focus on getting a career that would take you out of the house wife category…

2. Never let the sweet talks of MOST guys deceive you, sometimes all they just want is to have easy access between your legs and run off thereafter.

3. Remove the mentality from your mind that guys will keep springing up to approach you. The older you get by the day, the less toasters you will have.

4. Playing ‘too’ hard to get is the worst thing you should ever start, remember, Nothing lasts forever. If you still doubt, check out the number of matured single ladies looking up to GOD FOR A MIRACLE (Husband).

5. Never extort things from a guy you don’t love, guys always have ways of paying a girl back, either through their FRIENDS or total ‘PAID’ STRANGERS….BE CAREFUL.

6. Never be deceived you can trap a guy through s^x. A man will also return to his wife who s^x starves him for years once he loves and trust her. You can never win a man over with your body.

7. If all you take to the relationship is the mind set to EXTRACT MONEY from him, don’t complain if all he ask from you is your body. He has seen you have nothing else to offer…

8. Don’t be fooled when Guys tell you they have never met a prettier girl, they will say that same thing to an 80year old woman they want to get intimate with.

9. A guy always taking you to the SILVER-BIRD, FAST FOOD (pizza in or galitos), MALL AND EVENTS AT CONFERENCE CENTER/NATIONAL THEATER is no sign that he loves you, if he doesn’t care to ask and PLAN YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER then you are just his ‘SOCIAL MATE’ and nothing else….

10. If the only time he invites you over is when he needs to cook, clean the house and do his laundry, then just know you are his “executive house help”.

11. If he avoids meeting your family and close friends then it is an obvious sign he is just playing games with you.

12. Don’t always change the tv station from NTV to CHANNEL O, MTV and Fashion TV. Take time to find out what is bothering him and how you can help out.

13. If the only places he doesn’t frown when you enter are his bedroom and kitchen then know you aren’t welcome (only being used).

Have you noticed that most of the ladies that end up being emotionally abused are the ones at the receiving end… Always with open arms, requesting for something and ready to receive… The more you widen your arms, the more he widens your legs.

A grown up guy who gives the excuse about his parents being wild when he brings female visitors to the house is a sign that HE HAS A SERIOUS GIRL AND HAS INTRODUCED HER TO HIS PARENTS ALREADY… ADVISE YOURSELF…

FINALLY, I ALWAYS SAY THIS AND WILL REPEAT IT AGAIN… It’s better to be sitting in a taxi smiling happily than to be in your husband’s fresh air conditioned BMW x6 with bruised eyes wearing a fresh Gucci shades alongside a Burberry scarf….

JUST REMEMBER, THAT DATING A RICH MAN DOESN’T GUARANTEE HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE… MONEY IS
NOT EVERYTHING….. MAKING RIGHT CHOICES IN LIFE IS WHAT MATTERS MOST!

................. Culled From 247.naijagossip.com

Happy New Month Y'all