You Can Heal

Crazy how much responsibility we delegate to others

Our level of dependence on people, history and

How much power we relinquish to the adversary.

Have you ever thought about what it means

When you make statements like

"i don't know what came over me"

My life is a mess today cos of my ex"

"i don't know, it seems something is controlling me"

Take a time out and ponder on these statements

And what its meaning might be

Know this

God's plan for man on earth is to have dominion

Over issues of life, situations and crisis

The Bible dint say you won't be tempted

But it declares that you won't be tempted beyond that u can bear

But for you to overcome that situation

You have got to stop playing the role of a victim

Stand up on your feet and take charge

I know you decided you won't love again cos he hurt u so

But know this

There is no one i know of today

Who hasn't been through a rough relationship

The difference between those who have a happy relationship today

Is the fact that they moved beyond the hate, pain and shame

They stopped living in the past!

You cannot see joy in the present if you hold on to the past

No matter how loving or sincere the next guy is

As long as you view him through the eyes of ur ex

You will find nothing desirable in him

Try this exercise at your convenience

Walk with your face turned back

And if you are a daredevil try running

That's what you do logically when you

Hold on to the past and expect progress

Just let it all go

The hurt, the pain, the lies and the mistakes

Know this man was not created perfect

So stop beating yourself up when u make mistakes

You are only being human

The most important thing is learning from the mistakes

Know this

As long as u dwell on and beat yourself about the mistake

You are in bounds by it and is prone to make them again

In conclusion

I know you think you feel beat and foolish

Can't understand how you could have done that

And find it difficult to forgive yourself

But come on

If you don't love yourself enough to forgive u, who will?

Why some people never heal is this

They find it difficult to forgive themselves

Stop being elusive

Everyone falls

While some get up dust themselves

And take note of what they stumbled on

Others remain on the floor crying for help

While for some

Though they got up

They decided to leave the mud as a reference point

And are quick to point it out to anyone

Like hey cant u see?

My life is this way cos i fell

If you think you were a fool for love

Who wasn't?

There is no one with love in their heart today

Who wasn't a fool for love?

That is something u should even be proud of cos

It means you have the ability to love selflessly

And it is not your fault that your ex was so dumb

He couldn't appreciate the rare gem you are

What you need do is not change

But learn to choose who you give your love to

No matter what you want through

In spite of all the pains hurt and shame

Even if the cut is deep to the bones

and d scar permanent

As long as you let it go

Forgive yourself

Get your perspective right and

keep moving forward

YOU CAN HEAL!

Association

I have always heard peeps complain of how

They get mixed up with wrong peers, friends and association.

I used to have same problem 

Till i discovered this little secret i intend sharing

How do people get mixed up with wrong association?

This happens in 2 steps

(a) Attraction and (b) Association

Attraction

Do you know that

For everyone you attract,

you exhibited something which aroused their interest

Thus attracting them

Sometimes it's a careless gesture,

An innocent mis-yarn, a poise or posture

your presentation or disposition

When these indicators appeal to him

That is attraction.

Make no mistake about this people get attracted to you when

i. they think they can impact you (positively or negatively)

ii. They see traits they wish they had (admiration)

iii. When they perceive you have a common trait with them.

Though people might mis-judge your disposition and presentation

Believe me that's all it takes to attract them.

Association

Know this

Attraction alone does not breed association

Communication and communion does

Believe me

This is the point where most of us get it all wrong

After one is attracted to you,

They need your encouragement to be associated with you

If this is not given then the attraction fades away naturally

Therefore, if you discover that you attracted the wrong person

All it takes to lose them is to

Discourage communication and communion with them.

As we progress in this new year

Make up your mind to develop meaningful association

How?

Firstly, Separate yourself from the Mix

There is no way you will expect one to believe

You are different from the wrong peeps you associate with.

If all my friends are immoral, how would i convince myself that i am moral?

Secondly, train yourself to be courteous

Careless talks, slangs, seductive dressing and obscene fashion sense

Would always send out a wrong signal and

Attract the wrong kind no matter how much good you have inside

Thirdly, develop a strong personality and principle and

Don't be afraid to share your beliefs and stand by it.

Lastly, Don't compromise.

If your principles and beliefs does not rhyme

With that of the one you attract, leave it at attraction.

Better to be called a snub than vulnerable and condescending.

You sometimes cannot control who you attract but

If happiness is what you desire you must always

          ......Choose your Association!


Wish Y'all a Very Fulfilling Year Ahead......