Tuesday, 9 January 2018

Recreate your Circle




Life is a process, living and interaction a greater part of learning
The saying that no man is an island is a tale as old as time
Yet most of us fail to pay attention to the little things that makes life worth living
Which is, learning

Let me give this simple narrative
My 2year old son grew up as a boy who was irritated by poo
Whenever he poos he will cry or call your attention to it
He started school and all of a sudden, he would poo
And chill with it till one perceives its smell and checks
Upon investigation, it was discovered that his school
Being in a stage of renovation, moved children in their lower class
To his and these kids can be messy and cool
So he felt it is a norm and dropped a step lower in his learning process
We had to move him to a higher class
Now he wouldn’t even allow you put him on pampers

Truth is
Whether you believe it or not
The association and company you keep rub off on you
Most times subconsciously and in the end
You reflect the association you keep
It is said that success happens first in the realm of the mind
Before it is physical
If in your mind you are a failure, you can never succeed
But how will one break even if daily you are surrounded by
Those who tells you how impossible it is
Who and who ventured on it and failed

Believe me when i say that
For one to succeed in life you need to constantly
Evaluate and re-evaluate your association
cos in the end, that may be the first step towards your Eldorado
it is never too late to


Recreate your circle

Wednesday, 3 January 2018

Learn to Forgive



Forgiveness has been one topic i always battled with
How do you tell me to forgive someone who hurt me when i know has the capacity to do same again?
Ok, lets assume i could bring myself to let go
How do you expect me and such one who betrayed, used and abused me to coexist and function like nothing happened?
Note: I do not like to pretend and have never had a reason to

But recently i had a sane mind explain to me what rules has guided him on this matter

1.       Never hold anything against family.
No one goes to war with family and wins – be it father, mother, siblings, in-laws -. Even when you think you have won, you are still a looser

2.       Always give room for human error
If you expect perfection from people, you are naive. No one is perfect
So give room for human imperfection. No matter how nice the fellow seem, allow him some space for misbehavior in your mind. That way you will easily overlook his frailty when it shows up.

3.       Never expect too much from people/ Limit your trust in man
Even the bible declares that “cursed is he who puts his trust in man”

4.       Understand that forgiveness doesn’t mean giving the fellow an opportunity to hurt you again.
This was my major flaw. I would hold a grudge cos i do not want the fellow to repeat his actions again but truth is, you can forgive the fellow and set boundaries. For example
From BFFs we could become acquaintance, from close pals we could become “hello and hi” friends etc
I believe an exception to this rule is in case of exposure to danger cos it will be foolishness to hand over your drink to someone who once poisoned you.

5.       Be your own best friend
Enjoy your own company. Enjoy being by yourself that way you will stop seeking every Tom, Dick and Harry to make you feel happy.

6.       Always remember this part of Our Lord’s Prayer “Forgive us our trespasses, AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO TRESPASS AGAINST US
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Life can be a better place if we carry less grudge and bitterness in our heart
It is a new year, no matter how hard it seem

LEARN HOW TO FORGIVE


P.S: This was originally a note to me. I am sharing cos it might be of help to someone