Be a Friend

Friends, friends, friends I have got friends 

This is the lyrics of well known song

Rocked by my father's in the 70's

Friends can make as well as Mar you

Friends can build you as much as they can destroy

Today i am writing in appreciation of my friends

The angels whom God has placed around me 

on this sojourn through life

I know some of you will think i am exaggerating

Others cannot believe it's true

Some would even wish they were in my shoes

But Listen

No matter which side of the fence you are on

I believe in a simple principle of live

NEVER EXPECT TO GET WHAT YOU CANNOT GIVE!

Know this

There are principles in life which

When engaged set in motion certain event

Whether you believe it or not is irrelevant cos

Like the law of gravity you will always feel its effect

In one of Christ's teaching he said

"give and it shall be given to you in greater measure"

I know some will declare that

Friends have always betrayed them

But believe this or not

Your friend is a reflection of yourself

And an expression of your true personality

You cannot be a decent guy yet keep

the association of irresponsible friends

Look within yourself there is a dormant

suppressed irresponsible nature in you

which if not dealt with early will lead to your doom

No matter your argument

You cannot be a chaste lady and keep immodest ladies as friends

Friends

If all you have had so far in life are

Back-stabbing, hateful friends and friendly enemies

Check yourself!

Maybe, you are a secretive, manipulative and repressive friend

Human beings have the ability to perceive others

Therefore, your friend might sense when

You are around them just cos you need something

So

At the point you decide to parasite

The fellow might sense it and shut down

And when it goes wrong your run around shouting foul

Cos you feel cheated

Despite the fact that wickedness abound in the hearts of men

I believe

You cannot give yourself unreservedly

And not get it back in return

In case your story has been in the negative

Try the following tips on your next relationship

1. Try to connect with peoples personality not their status

2. Give yourself wholly without restraints

3. Do not expect favors from friends you helped

4. when you find someone to Love, Love  like your life depends on it

5. Be the friend you want others to be to you

If you want friends to always be there for you, do likewise

You can only get not just what you give

But a greater measure of it

If you relate with friends in all honesty

And they let you down

Cheer up!

In time they will get to understand that

They lost the best friend they can ever get

I am telling you from experience

Everyone who walked out of my Life

Wants a chance to come back

The Surest way to get a friend that

Sticks closer than a Brother is

Not just to be an acquaintance but to

BE A FRIEND!

Hold On

Our minds easily gets overwhelmed

Expectations failed, relationship lost,

Cares and worries increases exponentially,

Friends evaporates and succour not found

Relief sought from tears,

The heart weeps while the eyes remain dry

With strength and vigour depleted

Praying becomes an herculean task

Logical reasoning eluded and

Hope vanished.

At this point

Fate seems to be winning against Faith,

Light gives way to darkness

Evil seems stronger than good

With reason for living lost and happiness void

Thoughts of suicide becomes a daily companion.

Whatever point you are today

Know this

Life's cares are not meant to overcome us

Storms are not designed to swallow us

We cannot make a meaning out of all that we encounter

In fact the ability to fully understand life isn't given to us

So if up till now your focus, thoughts and analysis

Has not improved your situation in anyway

I believe it's time to change focus and re-strategize.

God might plan to bring us, through trials,

to our place of announcement and

We miss it cos

We gave up just few steps from limelight

I understand that you have

a thousand and one reasons to throw in the towel

it might even be the only reasonable thing to do

But take a moment and think about this

If giving up will not resolve whatever you are facing

How then is it the only option?

Believe this

The future is brighter, it always is

if only you can keep the faith

Whatever you do

Please

HOLD ON!