deep thoughts

I wonder how we have a gem

Treat it as if it is a dung

And when its gone

We resort to desperate acts

Having a sense of "my life will end without it"

"i can give anything to get him/her back"

My question is this

what did you do when you had it?

why dint you feel this way back then?

how come you had to lose it to really appreciate its worth?

The crazy thing is this

Many of those who go about crying for a second chance

Really do not deserve a quarter of a chance

(Why? you would ask)

The truth is

If you lost something so dear

And you have sincerely learnt your lesson

You wouldn't force yourself on it

And scare it with desperate acts and pestering

You will allow him/her to see the change

they have always desired in you

Only then will he decide if he wants you back

Desperation is an emotion worse than indifference

Because it makes one feel all you need to survive is him

And when he comes back, you go back to your normal self

Then all you will see is how ordinary he/she is

And you wonder what was it that even took me back

Why did i waste all this time begging for a second chance?

Then the ill-treatment becomes double of a quadruple

All i am saying is

Its wisdom to know the worth of what you have and

For the guys who feel you must fill every hole

A wise man told me long ago

"never throw away your pot of soup cos of soaking-garri"

If you find an outstanding spouse

Let them know what they mean to you

Because when it all ends all we hold on to is memories

No one truly enjoys to be lonely

Every heart yearns and deserves to be Loved

Treat that Guy like your "prince charming"

Treat that lady more than she deserve

Else you will spend your days singing

Adele's "someone like you"

When others are singing

Bon Jovi's "Forever"

Your Choice, Your exclusive right...

No to Child Marriage

Much has been said on the child marriage bill. I just want to point our minds to certain facts

Firstly, the health risks of child marriage.

I read an article in 2002 on "The menace of VVF in Nigeria by Fayoyin . A".  I did not grasp its meaning till I served in Maiduguri in 2008 and saw numerous beautiful young girls (between ages 11 and 15) with this condition which they came about during forced sexual act or child birth.

I tell you the truth. No sane human being will encourage sex among young ones of this age let alone child marriage after such an experience.

I indulge anyone in support of this act of cowardice to conduct a research on the causes and prevalence of VVF in Nigeria.

Secondly, The developmental cycle of every child be it male or female is in stages from infant-hood to adolescent/teenager to adulthood and each stage comes with its own characteristics and training. If we agree that it is insane to encourage a male child into marriage at age 11 - 15years when, except in rare cases, he is not aware of certain differences between himself and a lady, why would one encourage such in the girl child?

No matter how rapid a girl child's growth is, at age 11 - 15years she is not equipped with both the emotional, physical and mental ability to perform the duties of a wife. Please note that the duties of a wife is not only restricted to opening her legs at night for God's sake!

Child marriage is unjust and wicked in all ramification because i believe strongly that most men who are in support of such an act is doing so to get a wife who they can dominate, enslave and ultimately condemn into a life of widowhood at the prime of their life.

Calculate how many years Yerima has to spend on earth and equate it with the age of his last wife. The deduction is simple She will spend the better part of her life a widow!

In conclusion, It is medically proven that various aspects of the child needs to mature and be prepared for certain roles in life.

If we cannot allow the male child to take a wife till he can provide for his family, then it is only reasonable to allow the girl child mature into a lady and acquire both the mental, physical and emotional skills required to make a home.

If we cannot plant before the first rain or harvest our crops till they are mature and ripe, then there is no justifiable logic and reason that supports the marriage or giving out in marriage of a naive, immature and developing child. Even lower animals knows this.

The naivety of the human mind

Thinking about life and examining my past

I can't help but laff

Isn't it amazing how we pray to God for something

And when our prayer is answered

Our mind wants something else

So much that we allow our wants to

Water down the relevance of our needs

God might give you the perfect spouse

And you mess it up cos of things that matters less

Things like

Complexion, Physique and material possession

-Trust me friends

I have seen wealthy men become beggars

And beggars elevated to affluence-

And guys -as pathetic as we are-

Will lose a virtuous, loving and dedicated spouse for

"a bigger ass", "larger boobs", and "a pretty face"

Friends

Nothing endures forever

Soon there would be nothing left of the big ass

the perfect body, the fat bank account and

the 6-pack you fell in love with will soon become

one, big, rounded pack,

Protruding from below the chest to the waist line.

Fellows

Though human is not perfect,

It is foolishness to lose an 80% perfect being for

An 80% imperfect one. Be guided!

God might send you a perfect gift and you lose it

Because the package is not attractive

But think about this

No matter how attractive a package is

It cannot be more valuable that the item it encloses

But we seem not to understand this because of

The naivety of the human mind

how to avoid being scammed by online ads

Every platform is being hijacked by scammers to perpetrate crime.
Platforms like www.olx.com.ng, www.google.com.ng/local/trader etc has been used for these feats
I am sharing this tips cos of the numerous complaints we have received over the few weeks

TIPS FOR EFFECTIVE ONLINE SHOPPING

1. DONT BE GREEDY

If you see a "too good to be true offer" it is definitely "not true"

No one will sell his used Samsung Galaxy S3 for 15k
or an Iphone 6 for 30k

2.            DO NOT BE IN A HASTE

Even when you see a good deal compare with the other deals you have. Conduct a research about the seller. Ask for things like his Facebook Profile, twitter handle or Linkedln link. If it is a company ask for their official, customized domain mail account e.g info@elpinaplaza.com and transact all business using that.

3.            KEEP OFFICIAL MATTERS OFFICIAL

If you are dealing with a company, always ask for the company's account info for all payment. Never make payment into a personal account while it appears you are dealing with a company.

4.            ESTABLISH FACE TO FACE CONTACT

In the situation where you are dealing with an individual, seek to establish a face to face contact so you can assess the goods you intend to purchase

5.            BE ANALYTICAL

i.              Never agree to make deposit for delivery when the goods is not seen.

ii.             Never accept to pay a virtual individual for goods till you have a contact and you have the goods in your hands

iii.            When the individual claims to own an outfit and does not have a company account or website, request to pick up the goods yourself

6. Always shop for products on the company's online store eg jumia.com.ng, elpinaplaza.com, taafoo.com.ng etc.
Never make payments for a goods just bcos the fellow claims to work in a company that is well known to you.

these tips will be updated as the need arise. 

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Think Right, Act Right

It amazes me to see how much

we have eluded ourselves of certain truths

So much that take fun out of living

I am perplexed when I see people go around

complaining bout how much their life would be better 

if they had a spouse

Some are quick to complain

bout how badly everyone treats them

No matter the group you fall into

Please take your time and read this post

Ponder on them and share your views

For those who think they are treated unfairly

Make no mistake about this truth

People are programmed to treat you unfairly

Believe it or leave it

It takes One a true friend or

secondly, a refined mind to treat you differently

So expecting everyone to treat you fairly

is the number one recipe for depression

My question is this

Must you always rely on people?

Do you not have the capacity to rely on yourself?

Why would you expect so much from others

to the extent that you get devastated

when they behave otherwise?

Even the bible declares that

"it is better to trust in  the Lord than to put confidence in man"

Jeremiah declares that "Cursed is the man who trusts in man"

Friends instead of putting your trust in flesh and blood

Trust God and believe in yourself

Treat yourself well

Cos it is an illusion to expect people

to treat you better than you treat yourself

For those who feel they need to be in a relationship to feel complete

I want to tell you a true life story I watched on "Trisha"

(Trisha is a program that is aired on Sony Entertainment TV every weekday")

There is this lady who was amputated at age 6

And she grew up been looked upon as a disabled

But she said that while in school she decided she will prove

The Doctors wrong cos she was told she can never give birth

Cos she was amputated from below the waist

She decided to live as normal as she can

And navigates using a customized skate board

she was living a normal, jolly life.

One day at the grocery store she met a guy

They talked for a while and later became close friends

According to the guy he was attracted to her cos

Despite her condition she was so positive minded

And was of a jolly disposition

Later they got married and she fulfilled her dream of

Defying the doctors report

She now has 2 kids

Amazingly her husband is not disabled in anyway

Ask yourself this question

If a lady who had no laps, no legs and

moves about on skate board Can condition her mind

to see beyond disability and live a normal life

(went to school, engaged in sports and kept friends)

What excuse do you think you have?

You who is whole, hale and hearty

And you think you are disabled cos you don't have a spouse

Such that you go about with bitterness and anger

Know this

Nothing can take the place of self development

Consciously develop your mind and think differently

You cannot continuously feed your mind with junk

and expect your body not to feel like a waste dump

No matter how pretty you are

You will repulse eligible spouse with your bitterness and anger

It doesn't matter how much your wig,

perfume, clothes or accessories cost

If you feel like shit internally, it will reflect outwardly

Your life will be better if and only if your mind is right

Feed your mind with the right thoughts

Only then will your poise be on point

And you will attract not just every Tom, Dick and Harry

But the right kind of friends and ultimately

The spouse you so desire

Think Right, Act Right.