Association

I have always heard peeps complain of how

They get mixed up with wrong peers, friends and association.

I used to have same problem 

Till i discovered this little secret i intend sharing

How do people get mixed up with wrong association?

This happens in 2 steps

(a) Attraction and (b) Association

Attraction

Do you know that

For everyone you attract,

you exhibited something which aroused their interest

Thus attracting them

Sometimes it's a careless gesture,

An innocent mis-yarn, a poise or posture

your presentation or disposition

When these indicators appeal to him

That is attraction.

Make no mistake about this people get attracted to you when

i. they think they can impact you (positively or negatively)

ii. They see traits they wish they had (admiration)

iii. When they perceive you have a common trait with them.

Though people might mis-judge your disposition and presentation

Believe me that's all it takes to attract them.

Association

Know this

Attraction alone does not breed association

Communication and communion does

Believe me

This is the point where most of us get it all wrong

After one is attracted to you,

They need your encouragement to be associated with you

If this is not given then the attraction fades away naturally

Therefore, if you discover that you attracted the wrong person

All it takes to lose them is to

Discourage communication and communion with them.

As we progress in this new year

Make up your mind to develop meaningful association

How?

Firstly, Separate yourself from the Mix

There is no way you will expect one to believe

You are different from the wrong peeps you associate with.

If all my friends are immoral, how would i convince myself that i am moral?

Secondly, train yourself to be courteous

Careless talks, slangs, seductive dressing and obscene fashion sense

Would always send out a wrong signal and

Attract the wrong kind no matter how much good you have inside

Thirdly, develop a strong personality and principle and

Don't be afraid to share your beliefs and stand by it.

Lastly, Don't compromise.

If your principles and beliefs does not rhyme

With that of the one you attract, leave it at attraction.

Better to be called a snub than vulnerable and condescending.

You sometimes cannot control who you attract but

If happiness is what you desire you must always

          ......Choose your Association!


Wish Y'all a Very Fulfilling Year Ahead......