Facts about Love Pt2

Continued from FACTS about Love

Love is defined as

(a) Affection based on admiration, benevolence or a common interest.

(b) Warm attachment, enthusiasm or devotion

(c) Unselfish, loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.

In view of the above definitions

I believe Love is the center of our being as human

It is that character that proves our link with the divine cos

You cannot fully understand a concept without knowing its source

God Loves and God is Love

Love is a defense not a vulnerability

It is a product of wholehearted trust

Which is a function of vivid knowledge and undaunted understanding

Love is neither accidental nor subconscious

It is higher than attraction, bigger than emotions

and more enduring than feelings

It involves a conscious decision

Therefore Love at first sight is just an exaggerated attraction

based on physique, voice tone and or flair

Which if well evaluated might be Lust leading to infatuation and Obsession

Though I believe that you can be attracted to someone and

After you find a common ground, interest, belief or understanding,

Love develops between you.

Take a time out and think about these few thoughts

If you feel insecure in the arms of the one you claim to love

You are indifferent and insincere

If you feel like hurting him when he hurts you

You are Obsessed

If you feel miserable when he is not around

You are infatuated

If you do not readily forgive and accommodate his faults

It is not Love

If you do not have respect for each others beliefs and principle

It cannot be love

If your relationship/communication is sex-based

No matter how many years you have been together, IT IS LUST

If he broke up with you over sex forget it he is just lusting after you

If what you guys share does not enhance your lives,

dreams and aspiration, RUN for your Life!

If you readily hurt him/her, lay your hands on her

or destroy his property in order to hurt him

Anytime you are provoked and cry begging when calm

You are Obsessed.

If he cannot bear the thought of you being around other guys

Such that he stops you from working

despite your skills and qualification

HE IS OBSESSED!

If the only time he remembers to call you to come over

Is when he needs your body. You are his sex toy

If all you do whenever you meet is have sex

You guys are in Lust!

If he has never pushed you to advance your life

or make you take definite steps towards personal advancement

Then you guys are just marking time.

If the only time she tells you a wholehearted "I LOVE U"

is when she receives an unexpected gift you be MAGA!

If he has never supported you financially

nor given you any gift, ever. think twice!

If the thought of the one you claim to love

Does not bring warmth to your soul

Wake up to reality you are not in Love

If you do not feel whole and at home 

in the arms of the one you say you love

Something else is keeping you

If you are comfortable when 

you are not communicating with him

Babe you do not love him.

Love never keeps secrets for long

If your relationship is based on your location

Such that you feel different bout him

when he is not in same area with you

It's a sure indication of what love is not cos

Distance should increase need

thus escalating communication and affection

just like Scarcity increases the value of a product.

Now take this test

What will your relationship with your spouse be like if you

(a) Give him an excuse to avoid sex the next time you meet?

(b) Tell him you need to travel to another town for an obligation

(c) Need time to focus on planning and executing a project

(d) Have decided that you won't indulge in sex till married

(e) You decide that the funds she gets from you 

as his Boyfriend will cease for a while cos of financial commitments

If the tone of the relationship changes or he/she starts dragging,

It is never Love!

Being married to someone is never an indication

That you Love them

Else the rate of divorce in Naija would be minimal

Some people even tend to find their true love after marriage

Though Lust, Infatuation and Obsession

sometimes portray same characteristics as Love

Fake products are more flashy than original

A sure differentiating factor between what's real and not is time

Love will encourage you to do what is right

Love is considerate, unselfish and reasonable

Therefore sleeping with another woman's husband

And causing her to cry and keep awake late night

Waiting for the husband's return is wickedness

A man sleeping with a young lady he has no plan to marry

Despite the fact he has his own family is deception

Believe whatever you may

I know this for sure

If it was Love, It will always be Love cos

Love Never Fails!!!!

..... Seek Love, Give Love..... Happy St. Valentine's Day