Before you pop that question

When you go marry?
Is a question you will always encounter at a certain age
pressure sets in and one goes wife-hunting
Truth be told even the hunter get hunted sometimes
No matter your idea on the searching and finding theory
Like in a computer game we played back then where you select your weapon before the fight
If you select a wrong weapon, you are doomed!
It is true that behind every successful man is a woman but in same vein
Behind every doomed man is one or more women
Therefore before you pop the question search and discover the following

What do you really want in a woman?
This is the starting point cos any project without a clearcut objective is bound to fail
Have a clear cut vision and run with it

Whats your point of attraction?
If you are attracted to her cos of her looks
What happens when it fades
If your attraction is her flawless skin and flat tommy
Wait till she carries a baby
Then you live with the pouch and stretchmarks

Are you positioned to get the kind of woman you desire?
Every project have its requirements
Examining this carefully will help greatly
A lady might date you for trips but just like you
She has her own set criteria for an ideal husband
So positioning matters

How prepared are you?
Finding is one aspect of the project
Keeping her is where the real work is
What is your income?
"Love dont cost a thing" is a lie from hell
You need funds to service love
No matter how many poems you compose and pants you wash
If you do not buy her gifts at certain occasions
Your love is questionable
No matter how well you pretend to care, when the chips are down your true self is revealed
Learn to build your profile, cultivate a habit, shun pretense and packaging
It is easier to live real than to pretend
If you want a caring wife, learn to be caring
If you want a faithful partner, discipline yourself
Marriage is a union
You cannot unite with different mindset and characteristics
Understand that a union is about give and take
Both parties contributing for a united purpose

Who is your partner?
Its true that you cannot fully know your spouse
But you should be able to define her 
Know this
It is close to impossible to stop your partner from a character or habit after wedding
In fact, whatever she displays before, be ready to get it in quantum after the wedding
So define what aspect of her habits you can live with and those you cant manage
This will prevent the excuse of irreconcilable differences

Are you a Man?
Being a man isn't about the size of your chest or the length of your beard
Being a man doesn't even have nothing to do with your genitals
A man is a protector, a provider, independent and responsible (have the ability to respond to situations)
If you are not any of the above, forget it
Being a man also involves having a great level of emotional stability
I kid you not
Your emotions will be tried beyond whatever breaking point you think you currently have
Therefore, you need to have an uncommon emotional strength
Else, you will become an abusive husband

If you answered the above noted points in the positive
Go ahead and pop the question
If not, take a while and build yourself
Marriage isn't for the ill-prepared
In fact no matter how prepared you think you are
You will constantly be tested, tried, re-tried and tempted
In a nutshell, get your acts together

Before you pop that question.... Else disappointment awaits..